One generally doesn't mind giving a handshake to Abies (spruce needles are generally pointy, fir needles tend to be pliable). Michael F, I'm sure, will answer in more detail.
Abies: Twigs after leaves fall are fairly smooth, usually fairly thick Mature cones upright, disintegrating to release seeds when ripe Needles often (though not always!) blunt, usually medium length (mostly 2-5 cm) Picea: Twigs after leaves fall are rough with little 'pegs' (pulvini), usually fairly thin (thick on lead shoots) Mature cones pendulous, opening but staying intact to release seeds when ripe Needles often (though not always!) sharp, usually fairly short (mostly 1-3 cm) Of course it gets a bit trickier when you add in Pseudotsuga and Tsuga, etc. ;-) Pseudotsuga: Twigs after leaves fall are fairly smooth, usually fairly thin (thick on lead shoots) Mature cones pendulous, opening but staying intact to release seeds when ripe, with long bracts, medium (mostly 5-12 cm) Needles often (though not always!) blunt, soft, medium length (mostly 2-4 cm) Tsuga: Twigs after leaves fall are fairly smooth, very slender; lead shoot drooping Mature cones pendulous, opening but staying intact to release seeds when ripe, small (mostly under 3 cm) Needles often (though not always!) blunt, soft, short (mostly 1-2 cm)
I have found very simply put abies have smooth bark picea is rough. Some exceptions may exist in the world, but this has not failed me yet...